Spanking Children: Does the Bible Tell Me So? (2024)

The indictment of NFL player Adrian Peterson by a Texas grand jury for reckless or negligent injury to a child has generated an extensive discussion in the media on the topic of disciplining children by "spanking," or corporeal punishment, as commonly practiced in our society. Recent polls indicate that up to 70% of Americans, both Black and White, approve of some form of corporeal punishment of children--with Evangelical Christians coming in at over 85%. 19 States in the USA allow some form of "paddling" in public schools--with Texas leading the pack, having recorded a total of 49,000 incidents in a recent report.

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The Peterson case is, of course, extreme--but not necessarily uncommon. He used a "switch," a slim, leafless tree branch, to beat his 4-year-old son, raising welts on the youngster's legs, buttocks and scrotum, but millions of Americans--by far the majority of the over-40 generations--can testify to being "spanked," or in some cases "beaten," with belts, switches, cords, and other objects that left their markings on legs and buttocks.

Spanking in one form or another is as American as apple pie--and the practice is deeply rooted in, and most often defended by, a reading of traditional translations of the English Bible. The oft-quoted quip "Spare the rod and spoil the child" never appears in the Bible but in the book of Proverbs one finds a string of passages that seem not only to condone spanking, but also direly warn parents that unless they use the "rod" on their children they will utterly fail in their upbringing. Here are the quotations in the traditional King James Version translation:

Prov 13:24: "He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him often."
Prov 19:18: "Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying."
Prov 22:15: "Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him."
Prov 23:13-14: "Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell (i.e. death)."
Prov 29:15: "The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame."

These six verses in the Old Testament or Hebrew Bible, as well as a single passage in the New Testament, that speaks of God's disciplining of us as a father disciplines his son (Hebrew 12:6-7), have become the flimsy foundation for justifying a world of harm and abuse to children over our 300 year cultural history--often with lifelong detrimental consequences. Sincere parents, who love their children, but are stuck with a literal reading of badly translated verses taken out of context, are utterly convinced they are doing the right thing.

On the one hand we have testimonials from the majority of us who were "spanked" or disciplined with corporeal punishment growing up, with seemingly no psychological damage, and on the other hand Christian Evangelical preachers and teachers regularly assure parents that spanking will not harm a child, it is positively commanded by God! This Christian reinforcement of "spanking," based on a misreading of these verses of the Bible, is undoubtedly what continues to convince parents of the younger generations, who might have more of a cultural aversion to such practices, that they are carrying out God's will. Here are the cautious instructions on the popular the Focus on the Family web site:

When you spank, use a wooden spoon or some other appropriately sized paddle and flick your wrist. That's all the force you need. It ought to hurt -- an especially difficult goal for mothers to accept -- and it's okay if it produces a few tears and sniffles. If it doesn't hurt, it isn't really discipline, and ultimately it isn't very loving because it will not be effective in modifying the child's behavior.
Have the child lean over his bed and make sure you apply the discipline with a quick flick of the wrist to the fatty tissue of the buttocks, where a sting can occur without doing any damage to the body. You want to be calm, in control, and focused as you firmly spank your child, being very careful to respect his body.

Presumably this "calm" and "loving" beating of a child is to be administered to the naked buttocks of a child--which surely raises some other issues in terms of shame, dignity, and personal respect. Accordingly parents are told that such a practice should not be carried into the pre-teen-aged years!

The fact is these very verses in Proverbs have not only been poorly translated but they have been irresponsibly read out of their historical context and misapplied. For example, the word translated "rod," that might have inspired an Adrian Peterson, or perhaps my grandmother, to go outside and "cut a switch" off a tree in the backyard, is used by King David in an entirely different way in Psalm 23--The LORD is my Shepherd--where we have the line: "They rod and thy staff they comfort me..." (v. 4). The Hebrew word translated "rod" (Shevet) clearly does not have to refer to physical beating but can be a metaphor for general discipline and "leading," as with sheep and a shepherd. It is also the word that refers to a tribal leader--who carries a staff or sceptre of leadership--not to beat his fellow clan members, but to lead and direct them. It is used over 180 times in the Hebrew Bible--never with the connotation of beating.

These and other verses, as well as the overall teaching about disciplining children in the Bible is ably discussed by Jerusalem-based Christian biblical scholar Samuel Martin, who has produced a wonderful book, Thy Rod and Thy Staff They Comfort Me: Christians and the Spanking Controversy, available as a free PDF download here with no cost or obligation. Martin has been joined by a significant number of other informed Christian scholars and commentators who are questioning the both the traditional translation and interpretation of these overly quoted verses from the book of Proverbs. I recommend Martin's work for those biblically oriented folk out there who have wondered about what the Bible really says regarding using corporeal punishment of any kind to discipline children--or for that matter anyone who wants to be more informed on this controversial topic.

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Spanking Children: Does the Bible Tell Me So? ›

Prov 22:15: "Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him." Prov 23:13-14: "Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.

What did Jesus say about harming children? ›

And whoso shall receive one such little child in my name receiveth me. But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea.

Is spanking your child bad? ›

Research has long underscored the negative effects of spanking on children's social-emotional development, self-regulation, and cognitive development, but new research, published this month, shows that spanking alters children's brain response in ways similar to severe maltreatment and increases perception of threats.

What does the Bible say about children hurting their parents? ›

Proverbs 19:26 – “He who does violence to his father and chases away his mother is a son who brings shame and reproach.”

What does Jesus say about punishment? ›

Jesus famously states "let he who is without sin throw the first stone," effectively saying that capital punishment should not be carried out, without directly contradicting the law of Moses.

How does the Bible say to punish children? ›

Ephesians 6:4 also reminds us of the ultimate purposes for discipline: “Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.” Correction of our child's behavior should always be rooted in connection.

What does the Bible say about dealing with disrespectful children? ›

"Honor thy father and thy mother, as the LORD thy God hath commanded thee" (Deuteronomy 5:16a). Disrespectful actions of children, no matter their age, are abhorred by God, and there's no place that's worse to see the disrespectful actions of children than in a homeschooling family.

How to discipline a disrespectful child? ›

6 ways to handle a disrespectful child
  1. Try to understand the underlying cause of the behavior. ...
  2. Make it clear that their behavior is not acceptable. ...
  3. Explain the consequences to your child. ...
  4. Be consistent and follow through. ...
  5. Avoid the power struggle. ...
  6. Model good behavior.

How to discipline adult children? ›

12 Ways to Deal With a Disrespectful Grown Child
  1. Take a Deep Breath Before Responding. ...
  2. Remain Respectful. ...
  3. Set Realistic Boundaries. ...
  4. Acknowledge Your Mistakes. ...
  5. Be Open to Listening & Empathizing. ...
  6. Focus on the Present. ...
  7. Examine Your Parenting Style. ...
  8. Set Realistic Expectations.
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How to deal with a toxic child? ›

Look for teachable moments.

Choose a time when the atmosphere is calm and you aren't in the midst of the problem to talk with your child about their habit. Avoid lecturing, scolding or ridiculing as this could cause the behavior to escalate.

What is it called when God punishes you? ›

Divine retribution is supernatural punishment of a person, a group of people, or everyone by a deity in response to some action. Many cultures have a story about how a deity exacted punishment upon previous inhabitants of their land, causing their doom.

What does the Bible say about discipline? ›

Top Bible Verses about Discipline

Hebrews 12:11 - For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it. Proverbs 12:1 - Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but he who hates reproof is stupid.

What does the Bible say about punishing crimes? ›

Deuteronomy 19:21 offers similar teaching to fit the punishment to the crime: “Life for life, eye for eye, tooth for tooth, hand for hand, foot for foot.” Biblical scholars have cited that chapter as an ancient guideline for even-handed justice.

What did Jesus say about treating children? ›

Matthew 18:1-5

And he said: “Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Therefore, whoever takes the lowly position of this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. And whoever welcomes one such child in my name welcomes me.”

What does the Bible say about protecting children from harm? ›

Many biblical passages call us to protect and care for those who are vulnerable. Proverbs 31:8 calls us to 'speak out on behalf of the voiceless, and for the rights of all who are vulnerable'. We do not have children because of our strength, education or efforts, they are God's gift to us.

What does Jesus say about abuse in the Bible? ›

The way of Jesus calls us to relationships of non-violence and peace. We are to resist using violence even in retaliation for violence used against us (Luke 6:29).

What does the Bible say about harming the innocent? ›

Deut. 27:25 cursed be he that taketh reward to slay an innocent person... Psalm 10:8 in the secret places doeth he murder the innocent... Psalm 106:38 And shed innocent blood, even blood of their sons and of their daughters,/; and polluted the land with blood.

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